Personally I have to say I agree with ~moonlit-highlander - and I respect him for being possibly the first person to actually come out and say it... everyone else seems to be treading around the issue and being all "hush hush". Which is ridiculous. You don't watch a friend do something you think is stupid, and then let him keep on going at it - when somebody's a friend you make sure they know what's going on, what people think etc. even if it means you yourself might get some flak for your honesty. It's just about doing the right thing.

~moonlit-highlander dude - let me buy you a drink next time we're out - drop me a private message here!

I apologise for the Kym comment. That was a very shit way of trying to explain something and I was angry when I read a mate being referred to like that.

I really don't want to start a fight with you either and as a very wise woman who's on here pointed out- pointing out her worst attributes isn't gonna fly well when you've just started seeing someone (the whole rose-tinted glasses thing)... which is why I'm taking the easier route of not saying who I am and will always act v surprised when this is brought up. I need to knuckle down and have a good year and really don't want any aggro with you.

Erika, for all her self-righteous blustering was hardly up front and whiter-than-white the way she treated her ex, as that entry showed (where he could read it). At best it was a thoughtless, selfish, spiteful, rubbing-salt-in-the-wound entry by an immature girl who doesn't give two shits about how anyone else feels- absolutely reinforced by her new journal entry.

If she really was happy with you and over the ex, why refer to him as a 'certain person'- just call him an ex cos that's what he is now! Why not have some nice, genuine emotion about you instead of calling you a fucking 'et'? Didn't she go out with that guy for a few years? She wasn't exactly honest with him and was v keen to lead you on at the same time, didn't really try to work out their problems, dumped him, then was v careless and thoughtless about what she said bout him on every forum possible. At the end of the day and however you choose to look at it- she cheated on him, made out it was all his fault... and this was the person she claimed to love! You may feel gd that she must really like you to have dumped him but she's spoilt and manipulative and does things to suit herself- he wasn't v useful to her so she moved on.

I think you've hit the nail on the head- you are both good together. To be brutally honest, I think part of her attraction to you is that she isn't Kym (obv). I know Erika likes to talk it up as if she's good at getting male attention and seems to confuse a bloke talking to her as fancying her, but the stark reality is that she doesn't have the sexy bod or sex appeal that Kym had- so you don't have to be so worried about what she's doing/who she's talking to etc. She seems to be a safer bet.

Of course Erika wants to go out with you- she gets to live nearer uni (which she couldn't do if they were still together) and can convince herself that she's genuinely a part of things and is included because we genuinely like her. I guess what annoys me most about people is that they'll v happily bitch about someone behind their back but still talk to them on facebook etc and in person as if nothing's wrong. And for the sake of keeping the peace/an easier life, I'm guilty of that too now, which is kinda sad.

Just know that you seem to be the only one who whole-heartedly likes her. You're an intelligent bloke and when you cut through what you want to see in someone- if she really was a genuinely likeable, honest girl there wouldn't have been any bother at all! Everyone would have been completely sympathetic to her and v happy for you.

I know there's genuine feelings on your side but maybe if she has found out a few home truths from his mates/other people etc(which knowing her I'll doubt she'll ever take on board) it's too late for her to go back now anyway, so she'll stick with the 'et' who lends her stuff, can buy her stuff etc.

Self-righteous anger and waterworks does not make a genuine person. You can do better than that.

dude what are you playing at?! she's referring to you as a "pet"??

whose benefit was that journal entry for anyway? sounds to me like she tried as many cheap shots as she could to get back at her ex- deliberately trying to rub his nose in it where she knew he could read it.

as for I-wasn't-flirting with the guys... I may have missed something at uni but she was hardly beating them off with a stick! so why is she trying to big-shot it on here?

you think you can't get any better than that?! you and kym had something good together, don't lower your sights to the first thing that comes along. how many people have said 'well done' 'you've got yourself a good one there' etc when they heard bout you and erika? I know I didn't!

yeah I should say this to your face or hers when I see her about when i get back, but she always manipulates things so nothing's her fault or starts the waterworks for sympathy!

she's utterly classless and she's using you.

oh yeah, she listed her mood as "affection"- was that for you or the dog?

yeah upload something, I see you had a look at my page.

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When was the last time you did something crazy?

hey you... upload something!! xXx

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